FRIENDSHIP

                                                                            

“And appoint for me a helper from my family: Harun (Aaron), my brother. Increase my strength with him, and let him share my task (of conveying Allah’s message and prophet hood). That we may glorify You much and remember you much”. (Qur’an 20:29-34).

“They are but Awliya (friends, protectors, helpers’ etc.) to one another”. (Qur’an 5:51)

The prophet (S.A.W) related that, Allah (S.W.T) said:

Where are the ones who love each other because of my exaltedness (i.e. who love each other for the sake of Allah)? Today I will provide shade for them in my shade-a day wherein there is no shade except my shade”.

The prophet (S.A.W) said: “each one is on the Deen (way of life) of his intimate friend, so one should be aware of who to take as an intimate friend.

    5.  The prophet (SAW) also said: “The example of a good righteous companion and evil one is that of a person carrying musk and another blowing a pair of bellows. The one carrying musk will either give you some perfume as a present, you will buy some from him, or at least you will smell the scent from him. But the one who is blowing a pair of bellows will either burn your clothes or you smell horrible”.  (Hadith).

6. The basis of friendship is surely attraction of all kinds and qualities but sincerity-why, that’s the very crown of friendship.

  (Max Ploughman).

7.  The friends given to you by circumstances over which you have no control is God’s own gift.  (Frederick Robertson).

8. True friends like ivy and the wall both stand together, and together fall. (Francis Bacon).

9. A friend is whom you find comfort with. A friend is someone you can call at the middle of the night and talk with without him or you feeling odd about it.

 

10. A friend is whom you feel free to share your views with.

11. A friend is whom you love his/her companionship.

12. A good friend is the one that goes by saying nice things about you behind your back.

 13. Only a true friend will tell you when your face is dirty.

14. A bad friend is like worms that make cavities in your bones-you can only feel when it is too late. 

15. The good companion is better than loneliness, but loneliness is better than an evil companion.

16.A friend in need is a friend in deed.

17. Show me your friend, and I will tell you who you are.

18. A friend does not go on diet because you are fat. (Erma Bomberk)

19. People who have warm friends are healthier and happier than those who have none. A simple real friend is a treasure with more than gold or precious stones.

              

20. In prosperity, our friends know us. In adversity we know our friends. ( John .C. Collins).

21. Friendship requires great communication between friends otherwise it can neither be born nor exist. (Saint Francis De) Sales.

22. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you. Dale Carnegie.

23. The thread of our life would be dark, Heaven knows! If it were not with friendship and love entwined. Thomas Moore.

24.Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow, don’t walk behind me, I may not lead, walk beside me, and just be my friend.

          

25. Ihsan sat with Fatima and shared her sorrow when she had a miscarriage. She did not try to cheer her up or tell her she’d have another baby one day or even tell her not to cry over a miscarriage.  

Ihsan just sat and was sad with her, even shedding her own tears.

26. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

27. No road is too far to walk with a friend by your side. If you are in the company of loving people, treat them with the softness of a loving relative. And don’t take people to account for all of their  Mistakes, so as not to stay companionless through out your life.

28. Don’t dispute with your brother or sister, don’t make fun of him/her and don’t make an appointment with him/her and then not show up. Don’t remind them of their past mistakes in order to cause them distress. Call him/her by a name he/she loves and greet them with a smiling face. (Ibn Alqarni)

29. Whoever is not concerned with the affairs of the Muslims is not from them.(Hadith)

30. Even friends should hear this;Aisha (R.A) narrated the prophet (S.A.W) said “the most hated person to Allah is the one who is quarrelsome of the”.(Sahih Bukhari).

31.  Abu Umamah (R.A) narrated Allah’s messenger (S.A.W) said: I guarantee a home in paradise for a person who gives up arguments and disputes even if he is on the truth. And I also guarantee a home in the middle of paradise for a person who gives up lying (false statement)even while joking. And I also guarantee a home in the highest part of paradise for a person who has a high standard of character. (Abu Dawud).

32.”Verily, Allah ordered me to keep relations with those that cut me off, to forgive the one who does an injustice to me, and to give to those who with hold me”.(Hadith).

34. In order to have a good friend you need to be a good friend. Friends believe the best in each other. Someone once described this like a man holding some grains in his hands to loosen the chaff around the grain and then gently blows away the unwanted husks forever and keeps the grain. Friends hold on to the best understanding they have and throw away the bits that are not useful letting the imperfect memories of the other person blow away forever in the breeze of forgiveness and love.

35. A true friend scold like a father, cares like a mother, teases like a sister, irritates like a brother and loves more than a lover.

38. If you cannot change a thing then try
39. In helping others, people have a limit or point, up to which they are willing to strive and sacrifice for others. And this limit is seldom exceeded. (Aid Ibn Al-Qarni).
40. And put your trust (O Muhammad) in the ever living one who dies not (Qur'an 25:58).
41. Be open minded and accept changes when necessary. Don't be afraid to accept new ideas for a lot of goods can come out of them. E.g. new products, cuisines etc., most especially if it aren't going to cost you an arm and leg.
 42. Enthusiasm and persistence can make an average person superior; indifference and lethargy can make a superior person average. William Ward.
 43. Our background and circumstances might have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
44. Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and clear every doubt. Even a fool, when he holdout his peace, is counted wise. (Abraham Lincoln.
45. When the fool is arrogantly boasting take pride in your silence.